As a vlogger, I watch lots and lots of YouTube content. One of the channels I’m most inspired by is The Cottage Fairy.
The Cottage Fairy is Paola, a young woman who lives in a cabin in Pacific Northwest. A few episodes ago, she said, “I tend the star inside my heart to keep it shining beautiful, brilliant, and bright.” I thought to myself: That sounds like a wonderful affirmation!
I wasn’t always a believer in affirmations.
I thought they were too hokey, too woo-woo, too…something. But this past year, I started a list of affirmations in my Things app and every morning, I read them. To my surprise, hearing my affirmations, spoken out loud, has been extremely powerful for me. I have a list of about ten or so, along with the one I added about tending the star inside my heart.
The opposite of affirmations are the internal mantras of limiting beliefs.
One of the struggles I’ve had for years are the limiting beliefs I was raised with. Some of those include:
- I will never be successful, no matter how hard I try.
- I don’t have anything worth sharing.
- No one is listening to me.
- I’m working so hard but it’s all for nothing.
I tried for decades to break free of these limiting beliefs without success.
To counter these limiting beliefs, one of my affirmations is: “The voices in my head that say I’ll never be successful or that there’s no use trying or that I have nothing to offer or that I’m busting my ass for nothing are lying to me.”
After several weeks of reciting this statement every day, I noticed a shift.
After a particularly rough day, I heard that voice in my head say something like ‘Why am I busting my ass for nothing?’ And then I said, “That’s not true. I am proud of how hard I work and even when I can’t see it, I know I’m making progress.” I suddenly felt empowered, calmer, and stronger. I could actually feel my star shining brighter!
But the truth is, we all have stars inside us.
Thomas Merton, in his book Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander, wrote,
. . . At the center of our being is … a point or spark. . . It is like a pure diamond, blazing with the invisible light of heaven. It is in everybody, and if we could see it we would see these billions of points of light coming together in the face and blaze of a sun that would make all the darkness and cruelty of life vanish completely.
I think of those points of light as our stars, each one of us carrying these tender, fragile, yet brilliant stars inside each and every one of us.
One thing I know is that part of tending the star inside my heart comes from witnessing the star inside your heart. Seeing your star helps my star to feel braver and brighter and more willing to shine. This is mutual, I believe, as your star can be strengthened by mine. And then we go out and share that light with others.
Do you see how powerful and miraculous this could be? It sounds like a big deal because It Is.
I encourage you to intentionally tend the star inside your heart, especially during this demanding holiday season. Simply ask yourself how to do that and sit quietly until the answer starts to shine forth.
In December, you will likely hear and see a lot about stars. Remember, my dear, that you have your very own star, deep inside you, that shines and blesses people and places and situations around you.
Your star blesses mine. I hope that somehow, my star blesses yours as well.
With love, and Happy Holidays,
P.S. I have a small gift for you! When you join my online community by subscribing to my newsletter during the month of December, I’ll send you a phone wallpaper version of the angelic European Robin above.